While seeing a psychotherapist has become common and acceptable in many societies and is not associated with the stigma as it was in previous decades, some people are still hesitant to take this step and may deny their psychological pain and mental fear of making this decision despite the great need. Therefore, some may need more support from those around them to encourage them to consult a psychotherapist and achieve real change in their lives.
In a report published by Psychology Today, writer Abigail Fagan says we can feel fear and confusion when we see a loved one with mental health issues with no desire for treatment, so here’s how to refer them to a treated with care and respect.
Pick the right time
The writer explained the need to choose a time when the person is likely to accept your speech, so don’t surprise them as soon as they wake up or come home from work, for example, but make sure there is enough time and space to talk privately, or you can also ask them directly when it’s convenient for them.
Do not judge
The author suggested starting by showing your desire to help when bringing up the subject of psychological treatment and expressing your interest in the other party. Ask questions and listen carefully and patiently to the answers, try to identify the other person’s concerns about therapy and be sure to bring them up because you want them to be right and happy. .
when explaining particular concerns; Describe what you noticed and how the treatment might help you. For example, you might say, “I’ve noticed you seem sad for the past few months because of your behavior (X), and I think therapy might be helpful for (Y) reasons.”
Avoid being motivated by anger or being judgmental, either in tone or content, as the other person may interpret your words as a struggle to live with them, and no longer want help , but rather prefer to solve their own problems.
Convince of the importance of treatment in the consolidation of relationships
According to Dr. David Woodsfellow, one partner often leads the treatment effort and must persuade the other to join; Therefore, it is suggested that this partner use the word “I” instead of “you”, state the problem and explain how their relationship will benefit from the treatment.
Share your own experience
Author Fagan said that instead of lecturing the person on the value of therapy, share with them how it helped you overcome similar issues. Stories are powerful, not to mention how helpful this approach is in overcoming stigma. Also, talking about your personal experience with therapy distracts someone who has “something wrong” with the fact that it’s a normal experience that many people have and others have. also.
Pay attention to common fears and misconceptions
Fagan said there are several common reasons people refuse to see a therapist. As psychologist Lauren Soiro explains, excuses typically include:
- It’s expensive.
- I do not have time.
- I prefer talking to my friends.
- I went to see a psychiatrist once and it didn’t help.
- What’s the use of talking?
- I don’t feel comfortable discussing these things with a stranger.
- Therapists don’t say anything, they just sit and pass judgment.
- Therapists don’t really care about you, they work for money.
It makes sense to have concerns about psychotherapy, so don’t dismiss them, but rather try to reduce them with your loved one. And try to find out how to convince others to use a psychotherapist, despite their fears. If your family member is concerned about confidentiality, you can let them know that all information shared by patients is strictly confidential.
Offer of logistics assistance
The author indicated that the process of finding a therapist can be time-consuming and stressful, especially for those who already suffer from stress, anxiety or depression.
So; Offer to help with logistics, like finding a list of therapists or driving them to a doctor’s appointment. Some may appreciate the help, while others may prefer to do it themselves.
Know when to stop
Abigail Fagan pointed out that you cannot force someone to see a psychotherapist, but rather that the results can be negative if the person rejects the idea.
If someone refuses treatment, the course will be different depending on the relationship and the context; If the relationship is too harmful to continue, you may need to draw new boundaries or end the relationship. But if the person is someone who will continue to be in your life, know when to stop suggesting. accept help themselves.
The author concluded the report that opposition to treatment now cannot necessarily continue; Sometimes a stressful transition period changes a person’s perspective on the trial. Although not guaranteed, it is a possibility.